The Courage to be disliked

 

The Courage To Be Disliked-Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

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১.নিজৰ অনুভৱ আৰু আৱেগক গ্ৰহণ কৰাটো প্ৰকৃত আত্মপূৰ্ণতা (Self-fulfilment)বিচাৰি উলিওৱাৰ মূল চাবিকাঠি।গ্ৰন্থখনে নিজৰ অনুভৱক দমন নকৰাকৈ, বৰঞ্চ সেইসমূহ মানি ল’বলৈ আৰু বুজিবলৈ শিকাটোৰ ওপৰত গুৰুত্ব আৰোপ কৰিছে।  

২.আত্মবাস্তৱায়ন(Self-actualization)হৈছে নিজকে গ্ৰহণ কৰা আৰু নিজৰ মূল্যক স্বীকৃতি দিয়াৰ শেষ ফল।  আত্ম-বাস্তৱায়নৰ জৰিয়তে ব্যক্তি নিজৰ লক্ষ্যত উপনীত হ’বলৈ, উদ্দেশ্যবোধ গঢ়ি তুলিবলৈ, যিকোনো বাধা বা অসুবিধা অতিক্ৰম কৰিবলৈ সক্ষম হয়।

৩.জীৱনৰ অন্তহীন খলা-বমাৰ মাজতো মানুহে নতুন নতুন পথ সৃষ্টি কৰি নিজৰ দিগন্ত বিস্তাৰ কৰিবলৈ সক্ষম হয়।

৪.আত্ম-উন্নতি(Self-Improvement) হৈছে এক অবিৰত প্ৰক্ৰিয়া, যাৰ বাবে নিৰলস প্ৰচেষ্টা, প্ৰেৰণা আৰু সাহসৰ প্ৰয়োজন। আত্মোৎকৰ্ষৰ জৰিয়তে নিজৰ জীৱনটো ভাল কৰিবলৈ চেষ্টা কৰাটো অতিকৈ গুৰুত্বপূৰ্ণ।

৫.জীৱনৰ অৰ্থ বিচাৰি উলিওৱাটোৱেই হৈছে আত্ম-উন্নতিৰ(Self-improvement) চূড়ান্ত লক্ষ্য।প্ৰতিটো দিন,প্ৰতিটো মুহূৰ্তক অৰ্থপূৰ্ণ কৰি তোলাটো অতিকৈ প্ৰয়োজনীয়।ব্যক্তিগতভাৱে বিশ্বাস কৰোঁ, আমাৰ সীমাবদ্ধতাবোৰতকৈ সপোনৰ জোৰ বহুত বেছি।সপোনৰ জোৰত মানুহ বহুদূৰ আগুৱাই যায়।প্ৰতিটো দিন,প্ৰতিটো সফলতা উদযাপন কৰাত জীৱনৰ মহত্ব আছে।

The Courage to Be Disliked Quotes

by Ichiro Kishimi

1.Do Not Live to Satisfy the Expectations of Others.

2.It’s that you are disliked by someone. It is proof that you are exercising your freedom and living in freedom, and a sign that you are living in accordance with your own principles.

3.The courage to be happy also includes the courage to be disliked. When you have gained that courage, your interpersonal relationships will all at once change into things of lightness.

4.If one really has a feeling of contribution, one will no longer have any need for recognition from others. Because one will already have the real awareness that “I am of use to someone,” without needing to go out of one’s way to be acknowledged by others. In other words, a person who is obsessed with the desire for recognition does not have any community feeling yet, and has not managed to engage in self-acceptance, confidence in others, or contribution to others.

5.Your unhappiness cannot be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn’t that you lack competence. You just lack courage. One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy.

6.I have a young friend who dreams of becoming a novelist, but he never seems to be able to complete his work. According to him, his job keeps him too busy, and he can never find enough time to write novels, and that's why he can't complete work and enter it for writing awards. But is that the real reason? No! It's actually that he wants to leave the possibility of "I can do it if I try" open, by not committing to anything. He doesn't want to expose his work to criticism, and he certainly doesn't want to face the reality that he might produce an inferior piece of writing and face rejection. He wants to live inside that realm of possibilities, where he can say that he could do it if he only had the time, or that he could write if he just had the proper environment, and that he really does have the talent for it. In another five or ten years, he will probably start using another excuses like "I'm not young anymore" or "I've got a family to think about now

7.We cannot alter objective facts. But subjective interpretations can be altered as much as one likes. And we are inhabitants of a subjective world.

8.No experience is in itself a cause of our success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences—the so-called trauma—but instead we make out of them whatever suits our purposes. We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determining.

9.No matter what has occurred in your life up to this point, it should have no bearing at all on how you live from now on.’ That you, living in the here and now, are the one who determines your own life.

10.Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live.

11.If one really has confidence in oneself, one doesn’t feel the need to boast. It’s because one’s feeling of inferiority is strong that one boasts. One feels the need to flaunt one’s superiority all the more. There’s the fear that if one doesn’t do that, not a single person will accept one “the way I am.” This is a full-blown superiority complex.

12.Unless one is unconcerned by other people’s judgments, has no fear of being disliked by other people, and pays the cost that one might never be recognized, one will never be able to follow through in one’s own way of living. That is to say, one will not be able to be free.

13.Three things are needed at this point: “self-acceptance,” “confidence in others,” and “contribution to others.

14.You are the only one who can change yourself.

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